Domestic Violence...Love?
Posted: Tuesday, July 05, 2011
by Hope Baruffa
Where to begin....
It all started March 17, 2011. Luckiest day of the year...well, that is what is thought about St. Patricks Day. It was absolutely perfect. He was perfect. Everything just fell into place, and the way I felt was undescribable.
On April 20, 2011, I found out that I was pregnant with his child. Honestly, I was excited to know that I was having my first child with a man that was wonderful to his three children. Then he started stalking me. He followed me to my classes, and saw me talk to another man outside while we were taking a break from lecture. After that, it was all bad. He started accusing me of cheating on him with this other male at school. He threw away all of my nice clothes and made me start going to school looking like a bum.
I still can't breathe because of him, I am battling three court battles with this man. And it hurts on a daily basis. I am going to counseling weekly, and my next court date is on the 8th of August. I feel so unsafe, so unsecure, empty, souless, empty arms...
I am on several different therapy regimines because of all my broken bones, internal bleeding, internal bruising, and the list goes on.
If you are a woman reading this right now and have or is still going through a situation like this, please contact me if you can. I am all ears and I am hear from you to talk to.
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Top-level comments on this article: (4 total)hi hope,
thank you for sharing this with us.
i hope your future is bright with promise,
wisdom comes from mistakes.
and wisdom can keep us from making more.
good luck,
i pray someone reads this and walks away today...
my best regards,
sue
It is survivors of such travesty that make great listeners. You are reaching out and I admire that, it will also help you heal, I have been doing the same for survivors of child abuse, physical & mental abuse...for twenty years now. If you ever need to talk I am here for you also. May you find strength and peace within, courage to succeed and be happy in the future. I will light a candle in recognition of your loss.
It's heartbreaking that women have to go through stuff like this. My prayers are with you.
You poor dear. There are such monstrous guys who do not give a care about hurting or abusing a woman. Big tough guys who beat up on women? Yikes, I have animals that have more sense than some of our humans. I am sorry to hear this. I hope you have a restraining order. Keep a record of the stalking. If you can, document everything. Always tell a friend or family member where you go and when you expect to return. Let your lawyer in on every detail. You are getting therapy. Also go to a group session. Do not ever get into a situation where you are alone with this person. I have been through a most difficult time with a husband and trying to get out from under the marriage. I have discussed it in my one badge article. However, there is so much more to the mess than I have ever written about. He tried several ways, subtle and clever ways, to get rid of my two kids and me and exact revenge. So best of luck to you. Stand strong, and continue. You are in a bleak moment right now but I promise you that things will get better, vastly better! Hugs.
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